Before the Breaking Point: A Self-Awareness Framework for People Addicted to Chaos
For years, many of us run our businesses and our lives on stress and adrenaline, calling it “drive”. We fail to notice the warning signs our bodies send us, and we let real threats blend into our daily anxiety. If you are running your business or your life on urgency and calling it ambition, this session is for you.
In this session, Kylie Walker shares her story of how three completely different crises (a heart condition, a stalker and a marriage breakdown) turned out to be the exact same blind spot showing up in three different ways.
Kylie is the founder of That Property Mum and Done For You Services, as well as the co-founder of iThink Property. As a former journalist who built a multi-million-dollar property management business from scratch with zero industry experience, she now coaches property managers and business owners across Australia through her podcast, courses and PM Accelerate community.
Kylie's most important lesson was not a business one. It was learning, the hard way, what happens when you run your life in chaos instead of self-awareness.
In this webinar, you will learn:
how to catch the early physical and emotional warning signs of stress before you hit a breaking point
the self-awareness framework to identify hidden blind spots in your daily routine
how to separate genuine ambition from an addiction to urgency and chaos
practical ways to rebuild a career and business that protect your wellbeing, safety and relationships
By focusing on a practical self-awareness framework in reducing your daily mental load, you will protect your energy and rebuild a life that supports sustainable success.
Kylie Walker, of That Property Mum, is talking to Kylie Davis, of the Rise Initiative.
Kylie Davis:
Hello, everyone! If you're joining us, it's Kylie Davis here from the RISE Initiative. Great to have you here for our August Wellness Webinar. I'm here with Kylie Walker. You have a locomotion of Kylie's today. It's a great way to cheer up a rainy Wednesday. Kylie, lovely to have you on the call. Thank you so much.
Kylie Walker:
Thank you so much for having me, I hope everybody can hear me okay.
Kylie Davis:
Yep, we sure can. We're just gonna let everyone jump on. I'm also joined today, I'm gonna embarrass her completely, but I'm also joined today by Sharon Kupsch. So, Sharon is the RISE new coordinator and Partnership Manager. She's working full-time on RISE now, which is fantastic.
We've basically hit a big landmark that we've been able to grow and build RISE to the point where it has someone working full-time on it, which means that my work is going to change for Rise, which I'm really looking forward to. It's going to go back to being some more creative stuff, and Sharon is going to be the very capable hands running all of the stuff in the background.
So I might just get the official stuff out the way. The wellness webinars are brought to you today by our very good friends at MRI Software APAC. They allow us to do these webinars every month, free of charge to the real estate community, so thank you, MRI. And I am coming to you today from Melbourne, so we respectfully advise, we respectfully acknowledge the Wurundjeri, Woiwurrung and Bunnerung peoples as the traditional custodians of the unceded lands of Naam in Melbourne, where we meet, work, and learn.
We pay our respects to elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Island peoples here today. So, thank you. Kylie, tell us a little bit about yourself. Give us the spiel.
Kylie Walker:
Hello everybody, for those of you who don't know me, I'm Kylie Walker. I am also known, probably better known, as that property mum. I started a real estate agency 15 years ago, sold it off last year, and then throughout COVID, after suffering my own periods of burnout and stress and chaos, I started writing a blog to help others in the industry going through similar things to what I was going through. And my business has just evolved from there, so…
Kylie Davis:
Fantastic, fantastic. So, really looking forward to hearing your presentation today, which is a self-awareness Framework for people Addicted to chaos. 100% can relate, so I'm really looking forward to this one. Do you want to share your screen and we'll kick off?
Kylie Walker:
No worries at all. Just have to bear with me, I am just getting over a lovely flu. So if I get a little bit off track and all over the place, and I'm operating off two screens, which my brain does not work well with.
Kylie Davis:
I know the feeling. Understood. I'll just… So that you've got the full deck. If anything happens, we will just jump on board to help out.
Kylie Walker: Perfect. Everyone can see now the screen? Let me just move myself. All my note-taker's in there. Shall I kick out my note taker? I don't know if you want my notetaker in there, you can kick them out if you want.
Kylie Davis: We can't see it at the moment, so you're good.
Kylie Walker:
Okay. He sneaks into all the rooms. Okay. Hello, everybody, thank you so much for joining me. I'm super grateful that you have taken off some time to join this webinar today. I've got some, hopefully, some great value to share with you today, and some actionable stuff as well.
So let's dive on in. Hang on, now we've got to get cracking. Here we go. So I'm going to start today in dramatic fashion. I nearly died twice. Now, over a period of 4 years, 3 different parts of my life fell apart. My safety, my marriage, and my health. And I used to think that they were all unrelated.
But they weren't. They were part of the same disconnect, or blindness, showing up in 3 different ways in my life. And this is what the breaking point looked like for me. Not the Instagram highlight reel. This is the real, the raw, the very unattractive. But it demonstrates the heartache, the loss of self, the desire to give up, and it all. And I actually went there.
So today, I want you to understand why chaos mutes your alarm system. The real reason busy, capable people miss the signs that matter most. I'll teach you the three alarms Framework, a simple way to check your body, your instincts, and your relationships on purpose. I'll share my story honestly, and I hope so.
I don't break down and cry. It never gets easy telling it. I've had a heart condition, a stalker, and a marriage breakdown. One disconnect in three different arenas. And I'll give you a practical weekly reset, something that you can actually use this week, and not just feel inspired by.
As I mentioned earlier, I'm Kylie Walker, also known as That Property Mum. I started a large rent role from scratch with zero industry experience. I then started a blog as That Property Mum to help others in the industry going through similar struggles that I was going through. I am the host of the Property Management Podcast. We've just hit 100,000 downloads, which is super exciting, and I'm the founder of Done For You Services as well.
So let's start with my story. Let's go back to the beginning. Once upon a time, I was so deep in burnout that I didn't notice someone was stalking me. And I know you're probably sitting here thinking, oh my god, how did this girl not know that somebody was stalking her?
Well, it started very small. It was like slash tires. Dead animals at my acreage property. And just that feeling that something was off, something was just not right. And nobody would believe me, and my life became very chaotic, full of anxiety, I was full of fear, paranoia, and I just couldn't get anyone to listen.
But the burnout for me looked like constant illness, including adrenal fatigue, colds, coughs, flus. Every time I took a holiday, I'd get sick. I'd take my kids to their after-school sports, and I would put my seat back in the car and sleep for 2 hours while they were at practice. You know, this was like 4 o'clock in the afternoon. I went through my days like a zombie, not feeling anything, and then at night time, I'd numb myself with alcohol, just in case I did start feeling something.
I was constantly list-making, my hands were shaky, I had sweaty armpits relentlessly, and one of the interesting symptoms, which led to something more serious, was I was constantly short of breath. And it wasn't until things really escalated with the stalker, that the police would take it seriously. He would steal my underwear, and then tamper with it, and I won't go into the gory details of what he actually did, but use your imagination.
And then he would put it in places for me to then discover and find it. It was like he was a cat toying with a mouse. The stalking laws back then didn't protect victims of stalking. And the police wouldn't do anything until he actually broke a law. Which, of course, he eventually did, because people with his condition do eventually continue to escalate.
If they're not getting the reaction that they want, they continue to escalate. So he eventually broke into my home, and that is what it took for the police to finally install surveillance cameras. And that was a whole ordeal in itself, because I had four young children at primary school, still at home. So while this was all going on, I had to try to hide from them the seriousness of what was going on.
And we had a couple of failed software and tech issues. We actually caught him on the cameras, but the cameras failed, and we couldn't really identify him. But eventually, we caught him. And you would think that having him caught would alleviate some of that anxiety, but it only escalated it, because then I had to face the court case, standing in front of him in court.
And he was still stalking me from prison as well. I had multiple calls from him in prison. But it turned out that he was actually a murderer, a rapist, and a pedophile. And I've actually written a fiction book about it, so when I get it published, you'll have to grab a copy of it.
But what I want you to take away from that story is that I missed the signs that this was happening to me, until I couldn't ignore them. I was so deep in my burnout, I did not realize the danger that I was in.
Then in the middle of all that chaos, I started missing signs that my marriage was in trouble. There were longer and longer hours spent at work, excuses to stay out all night, or to stay home when I had a trip away with my kid's sport, a secretive phone, secretive phone calls, a staff member who made my skin crawl.
And again, I didn't trust my instincts. I was too busy in the chaos to speak up about my boundaries. I let it happen. I knew it was going to happen. But the chaos made me crazy. Emotionally unregulated, I yelled at everyone, I screamed at my kids, I argued with my husband.
I cried, I played the victim, and I blamed everyone for the shitshow that my life had become. I literally picked fights with absolutely anyone and everyone, my clients, my tenants, my team members, my family members. And I was living in a constant state of shame. And this is what my family looked like, though, on the outside.
Four healthy kids, successful business, successfully doing life and business with my husband of 20 years, and there's a certain grief that comes with the end of a marriage. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It was gut-wrenching. It was suddenly the life that you thought you'd have is over.
The family holidays that you'd no longer have, and this photo was actually our very last family holiday. It was a trip of a lifetime. We went to New York over Christmas. And after this family holiday, my marriage blew up, officially. And, you know, the loss of growing old with your best friend was suddenly gone, and he was in the arms of someone new.
And again, I don't say this to feel sorry for me. I say this because, could I have saved it if I had seen the signs earlier? That question still haunts me to this day. And maybe I couldn't have saved it. Maybe that was always going to be the trajectory of my marriage.
But if I could go back there again, knowing what I now know, I would definitely change the way that I showed up. And I hope some of you can resonate with that. I'm not blaming myself, it's just the way that I showed up in that time was not who I should have showed up as.
And unfortunately, underneath it all, underneath the traumas, and I'm not alone in my traumas, I know many of you are sitting here with very different types of traumas in your own life as well, but underneath all of the trauma, your body keeps score. And I was so addicted to stress that it gave me a heart condition. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat, I was jittery all the time, I lacked focus, I'd start a thousand things and finish absolutely none of them. My anxiety was through the roof, and I was living in constant fight, flight, or freeze.
And my nervous system never got a chance to switch off. And when I did finally start to switch off, I'd get sick. Eventually, my heart just could not take it anymore. I spent several years in and out of hospital. I was diagnosed with a heart arrhythmia called atrial fibrillation, which is normally reserved for people way older than me.
And people who are really a lot unhealthier than me. I had every test known to man. Structurally, my heart was perfect. Physically, I was in amazing health. I didn't have high blood pressure. I didn't have any cholesterol or any of those other typical symptoms, no diabetes that usually lead to somebody having this heart arrhythmia.
The only thing the experts could put it down to was long-term, ongoing stress. And I eventually had heart surgery in 2021, and the reason I had to have heart surgery was because every time I went into AF, they call it, my heart attack hormones would release. So I'd always have to end up spending a few extra days in hospital. But that heart condition was the breaking point for me. I hit rock bottom during that time, and I knew I had to make some drastic changes to my life.
And if I didn't, I wouldn't have been around to see my kids graduate from high school, let alone see them get married and have kids of their own. And the funny thing behind it all was I didn't think I deserved a calmer life. I didn't actually know that I could have a more peaceful life. And I didn't know that there was a calmer way to run a business. I didn't know that even existed either.
That was the belief underneath it all. And, you know, I grew up in a very stressful household. This was a pattern that started in my childhood and continued through to my adult life, but nobody had highlighted that the way that I was living and running my life and my business was not normal. Stress, chaos, burnout, that was all normal for me, and I never thought to question it. It was actually my identity.
So let me share with you what my ordinary week would have looked like back then. I was running 2 offices. I had 3 offices at one stage. I had a team of 30 in sales and property management, which obviously fluctuated. I was juggling and running 4 kids to school and sports and after-school activities.
I was taking care of a mother who had had cancer and then had had a stroke. I was living on little sleep, too much alcohol, and CrossFit workouts, on an already struggling nervous system. People thought I had it all together. They couldn't believe what I would be able to do in a week. Or in a day, let alone a week.
And I thrived on the compliments, and I wanted to believe that I could have it all, that I could do it all, that I was this superwoman. And I never once asked for help anywhere along that journey. From the outside, I was all drive, ambition, and constantly proving myself. From the inside, I was running on a nervous system that had forgotten how to feel safe unless something was on fire. And if it wasn't on fire, I'd certainly create my own fire, don't you worry about that.
And I want to pause here, because I don't think this is just my story. And I'd love you to drop in the chat, I'm just going to pull up the chat so I can see it. If any of these resonate with you, you can put 1, 2, 3, 4, or what would resonate with you. But maybe you're the busy working mum who's proud that she does it all, and is quietly terrified of what happens if you stop.
Or maybe you're the people pleaser who says yes before you've even checked if you have the capacity for it. Maybe you're addicted to being needed. If your phone isn't buzzing, or your email inbox isn't full, you feel like something's off, something's wrong. Or maybe you're a property manager who's learned to say, I'm fine, or a business owner, I'm fine, like it's part of your job description.
What has everyone said there? Anyone put in what they thought? All four can relate to these, yeah. Thank you, yeah. Top 3?
Yeah, we're not alone, and it's funny, especially for property managers in here. The property management industry seems to draw these kind of people. So, if that has landed for you a little bit too close, that is not an accident. That is exactly who this webinar is for. Let me just get my notes, not just pop down the chat.
Okay, so the three alarms, one disconnect. So the three places the warning signs showed up for me was my body, my instincts, and my relationships. The disconnect was the disconnect from myself. Because there was only ever one problem, not three. It wasn't my heart, it wasn't the stalker, it wasn't my marriage.
Those were just where it showed up for me. The real problem was that the chaos had disconnected me from myself, from my own body, from my instincts. From my own truth. And I'm hoping some of you can relate to that.
I'd stopped listening to myself long before any of those three things happened, and once the disconnect was there, it didn't matter which part of my life the danger showed up in, my body, my instincts, my relationships. I was equally unable to hear any of it. Because the thing that was broken wasn't my heart, wasn't my judgment, or my marriage, it was my relationship to myself.
And when you live in chaos for so long, your body stops being able to tell the difference between, this is just Wednesday, and this is actually dangerous. Everything gets flagged the same, which means nothing gets flagged for you. I had 3 alarms going off for over a few years, and I hadn't listened to any of them. I heard none of them, until I had no choice but to listen. And I had some pretty huge slaps in the face to wake me up to what was going on.
So let's talk about the first alarm. That was my body. So I would wake up at night, making lists of everything that I had to do the next day. My mind never actually switched off. Even sleep wasn't safe for me.
I'd lie in bed with my fists clenched that tight. My jaw would be grinding all night, and my teeth are all chipped at the back because of it. And if my day was calm and quiet and peaceful, I'd find ways to make it more stressful. I didn't even notice I was doing it at the time. I just knew that calm and quiet and stillness, felt like there was something wrong.
Kylie Walker:
I was literally addicted to the stress. And that was my body alarm. It had been going on for years. I just didn't have a system for reading mail from myself. Then, we have the instinct alarm.
I thought, honestly, I was going crazy when that stalking started, that I was being dramatic. I told myself that it's not really a big deal, because nobody else seemed to think it was a big deal either, including the police. I stopped trusting myself. And that was my instinct alarm disappearing, going quiet.
The third alarm was my connection alarm to the people closest to me. I never admitted to anybody that I was struggling. I never asked for help. I never questioned, was the way that I was living my life and running my business normal. I didn't put boundaries in place, and I told myself I'd be enough, that this is just a difficult time that we're going through, and I'd get through it the way that I get through everything in life.
So what actually breaks the pattern when you are disconnected from yourself? What lets you hear an alarm that Chaos has spent years muting? It's self-awareness. And I don't mean the therapy poster version of that word. I mean something much smaller, and something much more useful.
For me, Self-awareness is the gap between the alarm going off and you talking yourself out of it. Remember, I thought I was going crazy, that this is not a big deal, I'd be enough? It was just a difficult time. Those were not facts. Those were me muting my own alarm in real time, because Chaos… excuse me, I'm just getting over a flu.
I'm so sorry, I'm gonna have a coughing fit right now.
Kylie Davis:
No, no, that's okay. Are you doing great?
Kylie Walker:
Okay.
Kylie Davis:
Kylie, I have a quick question for you, just for you. Have a sip of water and take your time. Did your husband with the stalker, was your husband not alarmed about what was going on?
Kylie Walker:
He was, he was alarmed. But he's not... how do I put it? He's very calm and not dramatic at all. Yeah, I think that's probably the best way to put it. And it wasn't until he escalated in his reactions as the escalation in the stalking continued. Got it.
Kylie Davis:
Cool.
Kylie Walker:
And because we had four young children at home as well, we didn't talk about it at home, if that makes sense. So, it was a lot of me processing what was going on. Is this real? Is this reality? Am I going crazy? And I ended up doing a lot of the investigating myself, and before I caught the stalker, I started getting an idea of who it actually was, through my own investigating.
Kylie Davis:
That sounds terrifying. Yeah.
Kylie Walker:
Sorry, I'll get back. And if anyone's got questions, I'm happy to answer any questions at the end. No problem at all. Okay, so where was I up to?
Okay, let me just go back a step. I'll just say that self-awareness, because this is really important, self-awareness is the gap between the alarm going off and you talking yourself out of it. So the things that I would say to myself, like, I thought I was crazy, that this is not a big deal, I'd be enough, they weren't actual facts. They were me muting my own alarms in real time, because the chaos had trained me to distract myself faster than I could listen to myself.
So, self-awareness is just noticing that that gap exists, and getting curious about it. Instead of automatically talking yourself out of it. It's not a personality trait, it's not something you either have or you don't have, it's a rep, and you can build it the same way you build any other muscle. And so, when you question something going on, say it's with a work colleague or with your partner, and you start telling yourself stories, and you're justifying what's going on. That's a trigger.
If you're telling yourself, I'm just being paranoid, I'm going crazy, that's actually the trigger for you to stop. And take a deeper look at what is going on, without all the chaos around you, without the stress, without the busyness or the emotion. What are the actual facts? What is really going on? Because what we tend to do is something happens at work, and we have a little intuition about it, but then we're in the busyness and the craziness, and we ignore it. We let it go.
And then, in my experience, if you don't stop and address it, it just continues to be like a cyclone, and adding more stuff to it until it becomes such a big issue. And I guess it's a good framework to have if you're having a dispute, or an argument, or conflict with somebody. It's a good check-in, as well, to go, what is this really about? What are the facts of what this is really about?
So that's what I call the three alarms. It's the body alarm, the instinct alarm, and the connection alarm. Your alarms might show up differently. These are personally what showed up for me when I was disconnected from myself. Chaos doesn't remove your warning system, it mutes it. You still have alarms, you just can't hear them over the busyness of your daily lives.
So what turned things around for me? How did I not remain in the fetal position? How did I continue to show up and build businesses and thrive? Because my life, since all that happened, my life has actually thrived in so many different ways.
So the turning point for me was that I had to let go of who I thought I had to be. It was a decision that I made. I let go of my identity as the stressed chaotic working mum. The one who had to do everything, who had to handle everything, who had to organize everything. Who wore exhaustion like it was a badge of honour.
I had to do a lot of inner work. And for me, that looked like therapy, meditation, healing, journaling. I had to untangle a lifetime of limiting self-beliefs that have convinced me that this was just who I was. That chaos was normal. And that the stress was just the price of being successful. And that I didn't deserve a calmer, better life than the one that I was already living. Ultimately, though, I had to stop being addicted to stress.
And you don't suddenly have self-awareness, and the pattern stops. Having and developing and growing your self-awareness is constant work. It's constant check-ins. Remember, we are working with a lifetime of programming that we need to undo. Just last year, I did a workshop with the amazing Tangela Lee, who I know is a big supporter and part of the RISE community as well.
And through her workshop, I had fallen back, not as bad, but I had fallen back into my addiction to stress pattern. So the work that you do on yourself and self-awareness, it's not a destination. It's actually a journey, and I don't think it will ever stop.
So let me teach you the three alarms check-in. If any of this is resonating with you today, and you're feeling a little off-kilter in your life, this might be something that you can practically use. But before I do that, I want to name something here, because I think a lot of you are living inside it right now. Property management and real estate runs on urgency.
Being needed, being the one who handles everything, the one that tenants or buyers or sellers call at 9pm at night, the one that landlords expect an email from on a Sunday. The one who says, don't worry, I've got this, like it's part of your identity. And I'm not telling you this to make you feel guilty, this isn't about guilt. It's about a cost. And there's a real cost to living the way that I did.
And it deserves to be named instead of quietly paid. Paid in your health, paid in your relationships, paid in your trust in yourself. I like to call this, and property managers will know what I mean. Sorry, I'm gonna have to take another sip of water.
Kylie Davis:
No worries, Kylie. Take your time.
Kylie Walker:
I like to call this, and like I said, property managers will know, it's a chaos default. When stress becomes your baseline, your nervous system stops treating warning signs as urgent. And not because the warning signs aren't there, but because everything else that you're doing already feels urgent, all the time. And one urgent thing after another, until your body just cannot tell the difference between this needs my attention today, or this can wait until next week.
It's not a priority, it's not urgent. And I was working with a property manager recently. And we were cleaning out, going through her inbox. She was in that, this is urgent, I have to do this today. And I'm like, why do you have to do this today? Like, you can reply and say, I'm working on this, I'll get back to you next week.
But when you're in that default of stress and chaos, you can't think logically, and put some boundaries in place to support yourself. Everything feels like you've got to do it right now. And this is exactly what this industry does to us. When we're not aware of this, this is exactly the states that we can get into.
And I want you to not wait until you get to a breakdown, a major breaking point, for you to recognize that there is something going on, that something is not right. I want you to check these three things. So, these are the questions, and I've got a worksheet that you can download on the last slide, so don't worry if you're trying to write them down. The check-ins for each alarm. So, what's the body alarm? What is my body trying to tell me that I'm too busy to hear?
The instinct alarm? I would write down, what am I feeling? Ultimately, a lot of our thoughts start with a feeling. If we are feeling crappy and stressed, our thoughts are going to look and create more stress. They're going to want more of what we're thinking about. If we're feeling calm and peaceful, our thoughts will be looking for calm, peaceful thoughts.
And when you know what you're feeling, what are you dismissing? Are you dismissing this feeling because it's actually nothing, or because I'm too overloaded to take it seriously? And then the connection alarm. What have I stopped noticing in the people closest to me? What have we stopped doing that we used to do? And when did I stop noticing?
And like I said, these are my alarms, these are what showed up for me when I wasn't connected to self. You may have different alarms, different areas of your life that are showing up for you, but you can adapt these questions to suit what shows up for you.
So how do I actually use this week to week? Sometimes I do it daily. If I'm feeling a little bit like I'm getting into my default pattern of stress and chaos, I'll do it daily. Sometimes I'll do it twice a day. I write down at the start of the day, I'll write down something at the end of the day. But if you wanted to start with just a weekly check-in, sit down and ask yourself all of those three questions.
It doesn't have to be a big ritual. It can be just 5 honest minutes spent checking in with yourself. And the goal isn't to find something wrong every time, it's just to make checking in with yourself very normal, so that a real alarm doesn't have to reach breaking point before you hear it. It is now part of my personal development, and if I'm completely honest, it's part of my emotional regulation as well. I can get a little crazy if I'm not emotionally regulated.
And some of my daily practices that have helped me, and support me, I do meditate every morning. Joe Dispenza, is through Tanja Lee's teachings. He's amazing. There's some great meditations there. I do a journaling practice. I have to exercise and move. I don't have to do CrossFit workouts every day anymore. I can walk my dogs along the beach, which is now only 700 meters away from me, which is amazing. Obviously healthy meals and limiting alcohol dependence.
I have a rule with myself now around alcohol. If I'm drinking to numb myself, I won't drink. If I'm drinking to be social and enjoy it with friends and family, I will drink it. But if it's because I want to numb and avoid feeling something, I won't touch alcohol. That's when I'll grab the journal and start writing. And I try to connect with my family and friends every single day.
And it's hard when we're busy, and we're running families, and we're running businesses, and we're working stressful jobs. We can very quickly lose our connection to our family and friends. It doesn't have to be anything dramatic, a quick check-in, a text. Hey, I'm thinking of you. Hey, let's put something in the diary to catch up. Let's go for a walk on Saturday, let's catch up for a coffee.
I think it's really, really important to have that connection in our lives. And I know personally, in the stages of running businesses and my kids, I lost a lot of my friendships, and now I'm very conscious of it's very important to me to maintain those connections. So the three alarms check-in only works, though, if you believe you're allowed to act on them. The first real step is an alarm one.
It's deciding that you deserve to catch these before breaking point. You deserve calm, peace, and happiness. And that is a permission shift that took me a very, very long time to get to. Years, in fact.
So, like I said, you really do deserve to catch the alarms before breaking point, not just survive after it, like I have had to do. So these are a couple of things that I want to leave you with today. One is that chaos doesn't remove your alarm system; it just mutes it. Everything urgent means nothing important gets flagged that's going on in your life.
Two, your body, instinct, and connection alarms are one system, not three separate parts of life. If they are failing, you are disconnected from yourself, from your truth. Find a way back to yourself. 3. Checking in should be a weekly practice, not a crisis response. Just 5 honest minutes a week on purpose. And the Framework only works once you believe you deserve it, or that you are allowed to act on what it tells you.
And if you are struggling and you're going through anything difficult in your life right now. You don't have to do it alone, and as humans, we're not meant to do it alone. We're meant to be part of communities. And the RISE Initiative is an amazing community. They have created an amazing app, so download that. You can scan it on the QR code. If you can't, obviously reach out to the RISE in there, there is an amazing community, there's resources, there's counseling, there's meditations, journal prompts, all to help you beat stress, chaos, burnout.
And if you can, I invite you to share it with your team, your family, your friends, who might need some of that support as well. That's it. That is me done and dusted for this wellness webinar. I do have a little worksheet there for anyone that likes to have a printable that they can work with. It's just the journal prompts that you can download. Hopefully that link works, I didn't test it, my bad. If anyone has any questions, I'm not sure, Kylie, if we can do questions, or if anyone's welcome to reach out to me anytime.
Kylie Davis:
Yeah, look, we've got a little bit of time for questions. If anyone's got any, please pop them into the chat. We'd love to hear them. Kylie, thank you so much, though. I mean, that really resonated on so many levels. And I think it reminded me of what I wanted to do was thank you, though, because one of the key learnings that we got from Mitch Wallace from Hard On My Sleeve is that you have to name things to tame them.
Like, name it to tame it was one of his catch cries. Chaos is distraction, right? And so that addiction to chaos and stress is really the distraction. Our brains distract ourselves from diving into the stuff that we really need to do. So thank you for a fantastic presentation that literally has named to tame both the importance of that in our lives, but also the fact that it's part and parcel of our industry, and especially in property management.
And do we want it to be that going forward? Because I don't think we do, no, we don't. So what are we going to do about that? That's the what are we going to do about it? Well, we all have to take responsibility ourselves for what's going in for us, so that we've then got the strength to actually structurally start to address it as well.
Kylie Walker:
Absolutely, so it definitely starts with ourselves, but then leaning on and asking for help, and leaning on resources, and reaching out to mentors, and joining communities like RISE that can support you and help you. There's some amazing people. And what you guys do is amazing to support the industry, so I wish it was around when I was going through what I was going through, because I probably would have been your highest user.
Kylie Davis:
We would not have known that, because we don't see any data, but you know... We just would have known that there was one person that was really…
Kylie Walker:
As always.
Kylie Davis:
That's completely okay. But look, thank you. If we don't have any questions, I think we might let everyone get back into their day. You now have some time to sit down and ask yourself those three questions around, what are they again call it? Instincts?
Kylie Walker:
Yep, your body alarm, audio. Instinct alarm, and your connection alarm.
Kylie Davis:
And your connection alarm, yeah, I feel like I need to go and do some work. And now that Sharon's on board, I will go and do it.
Kylie Walker:
But I think even just to wrap it up in a bow, the most important question I would be asking myself every day or week is, how am I feeling? And then doing a little bit of work around that, emotionally regulating yourself, because that's where it all starts, with your feelings. If any takeaway, write down how you feel.
Kylie Davis:
Yeah, and that's our mantra at RISE, that when you feel better, you can think better, and then you can perform and behave better. So those three things are absolutely constantly connected. So, thank you so much again for an amazing presentation, Kylie. Absolutely loved it. Love the work that you're doing.
So glad to hear that you've come through all that and are looking after yourself now. So, thank you so much for sharing and the authenticity in all of that. Just a final thank you to MRI Software APAC for being our fabulous sponsors that allow amazing speakers like Kylie to be part of RISE every month, sorry.
We hold these webinars on the first Wednesday of every month, so please come. We will send out the invitation to the next one coming up for September. But, thank you so much again, Kylie, and have an awesome day and an awesome rest of the week, everyone. Thank you. Thanks, guys.
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